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What Makes a Great Marriage?

Continuing from my last post, which offered two recipes for a successful marriage, following are some very interesting facts about what sets the best marriages apart, according to sociologists as reported in Deseret News:

  • The quality and openness of sex is more important than its frequency.
  • 90% of couples who pray together report “very great” sexual satisfaction.
  • Couples who agree on religious faith AND family finances double their chances of success.
  • Most unhappy couples acknowledge their conflicts are of relatively recent origin and are short-term, not necessarily a precursor to divorce or infidelity.
  • At any moment, fewer than one-fifth of couples are in the “falling in love stage.”
  • At any moment, more than half of couples are “settling down” in their marriage.
  • At any moment, one-fourth of couples, young and old, report they are “beginning again”—reviving the romance of their earliest years together.

I love that last fact! Have you thought about the need to “begin again” with your spouse—to revive the spark and refresh your romance on a regular basis? Every marriage will experience ebbs and flows. Perhaps now is a great time for you to invest more of your time and effort into your relationship. Cultivate romance.

Begin by thinking about why you married your spouse in the first place. Think about your wedding day and the feelings you shared.  Reminisce with your spouse. List his or her positive traits if you need to, and focus on the positive aspects of your relationship. If you need some inspiration, check out 7 Small Things You can Do to Improve Your Marriage.

In which stage is your marriage? Do you agree with the social scientists or is every marriage unique?

9 Ways to Keep Your Marriage Healthy

Almost three-quarters of wives have considered leaving their husbands at some point, according to a Women’s Day and AOL Living Poll. CNN.com reports it’s a wonder anyone ends up walking into the sunset as “geriatric lovebirds.”

Because each stage of life offers new challenges, CNN.com provides nine ways you can protect the health of your relationship no matter which stage you’re currently in. Here’s a brief summary of the tips:

  1. Watch your waistline—Married couples have larger waistlines, which can cause chronic health conditions and diminish sexual attraction. Watch portion sizes.
  2. Make a financial plan— Money is the number-one argument topic for couples. Even if you have different spending tendencies and priorities (many couples do), resolve your issues by making a plan and maintaining honesty about money.
  3. Create family rules—The way you grew up may be different from your spouse’s background and different from how you want to raise your family. Discuss home responsibilities, family priorities, how you plan to raise your children and how you will run your home as early as possible.
  4. Make sex a priority (but not a chore)—If you schedule sex, it may turn into yet another responsibility. Regular intimacy is necessary for a healthy marriage.
  5. Be flexible—During life transitions, your roles may change or be adjusted. Your spouses’ value (or your own) doesn’t depend on his or her paycheck or job.
  6. Remain active—Find an activity you can enjoy together, to remain healthy and enhance your sex life.
  7. Confide in a friend—A close friend can provide empathy and advice, but share carefully.
  8. Rediscover one another—After the nest is empty, marital satisfaction generally improves. Use the freedom to enjoy each other.
  9. Be a conscious caregiver—As you and your spouse age, chances are good one of you will need to be caregiver at least for a time. Ask for help when you need it. Caring for yourself will enhance the care you provide.

For the full CNN.com article, visit: http://tinyurl.com/nkj2w6.