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Anniversary Traditions Inspired by Celebrities

I love Heidi Klum on the hit show Project Runway. But it’s her marriage to British singer Seal that offers today’s inspiration. The 36-year-old Victoria’s Secret supermodel has had four children during the height of her modeling career and says she is living a dream marriage. In an interview in the Daily Star, Klum says of Seal, “I will always want to be not only his wife, mother of his children and his best friend, but also his hot girl who keeps making effort to be attractive and fun.

For his part, Seal reports a very romantic anniversary tradition. “Each year Heidi and I get remarried. We sit there with the kids and read vows to each other as the sun sets.”

This private time is followed by a big party for friends and family. They even have a theme each year for the renewals. One year they invited friends to attend dressed as brides and grooms. Another year they had an Elvis Presley-look-alike officiate the renewal.

Not lacking in creativity, Seal proposed to Klum on Dec. 23, 2004 at 14,000 feet, in an igloo he had built on a glacier in Whistler, British Columbia, according to Wikipedia. While not all of us can afford to have an igloo built on a glacier at 14,000 feet, what an unforgettable experience that must have been.

I don’t often look to celebrities for inspiration, but I enjoy the idea of a very personal recommitment for an anniversary. It’s so easy to let anniversaries pass without anything more significant than a card and flowers or dinner out. But speaking your vows to one another, especially in front of your children, might just make you feel like a newlywed again.

What are your anniversary traditions?

Negotiating Holiday Traditions with Your Spouse

Holidays seem to bring out the best and worst in families. With Easter a few days away, many families are busy planning dinners, coloring eggs, or stewing about having to visit the in-laws. Because we were all raised in different environments, a perfect holiday vision for one person is often not in the same ballpark as another. If conflict or disappointment makes a regular appearance in your marriage during holidays, it may be time to reevaluate your plans.

For instance, when I grew up, holidays meant time for extended family to gather for large, formal meals and church services. My husband’s family celebrated with only immediate family and plenty of lounging. Not surprisingly, early in our marriage during holidays, he often wanted to relax at home with our immediate family, while I wanted to travel to be with extended family. We’ve learned to compromise.

Once children enter the picture, couples often create a “perfect vision” for their child’s holidays. Sometimes one spouse thinks that means showering the children with extravagant gifts, covering your home in pastel colors, and cooking an elaborate feast. The other spouse may prefer to spend the day on the golf course and eat out. Maybe for one of you religious observations are very important, but not for the other.

The key to finding any harmony is to communicate your preferences to one another, along with why you would like to see a change. Once each person has the opportunity to put all their ideas on the table, consider how you might incorporate some of the most important elements of each of your perfect holidays. You may even decide to trade off on which holiday person’s ideal traditions will take precedence each year.

Whether or not you have children, you are a family, and should create traditions of your own. You may be surprised about how much fun you have when you allow yourselves to be open to new possibilities.

How do you spend your holidays as a family? Do you feel conflicted with your traditions, or have you found a happy compromise?