6 Feel-Good Things Your Husband Wants You to Know

Parenting Magazine shared 6 things your hubby may not want to tell you but is often feeling, at least according to one guy’s opinion.  Check out the article for the full explanation, but here’s a short synopsis for you:

  1. I want to cuddle. He may be as surprised as you that he enjoys this bonding time, but cuddling can be a relief after a difficult day, even if sex isn’t happening—although they’d prefer it be happening, too.
  2. Initiate in bed. Husbands often tire of always having to initiate, and feeling that sex is a chore on your list. Increasing your interest and surprising him by initiating go a long way toward making him feel loved.
  3. I’m fed up with date night. Traditional date nights can be boring and expected. Try doing something off-beat like dropping the kids off at school, taking a day off of work and spending the day together having fun, seeing a movie or whatever strikes you. Or at least try a less structured date where you’re not focused on how much the sitter is costing you or talking about the kids.
  4. I need more guy time. Either take turns spending a little time with friends, or hire a sitter and occasionally go spend time with girl/guy friends.
  5. You look hot. Even without makeup while washing the dishes.  “We know you’re convinced we’re crazy – how can we possibly think you look sexy when you feel overweight and out of shape, when you haven’t gotten a pedicure in ages and your eyebrows need to be waxed, when your clothes are all puke-stained, and when you haven’t showered in two days? We get it. But you know what? We still think you’re hot,” writes Ian Kerner.
  6. It turns me on that you’re the mother of my child. “The sense of manliness that’s wrapped up in you and the kids and our little family is a wellspring of sexual self-esteem,” adds Kerner.

I think men probably feel many of these things, especially number two. Perhaps they don’t think it’s worth their energy to discuss, because they think they  know how their wife will respond.

Do you think husbands are thinking any of these things? If so, do you think they are reluctant to communicate the messages? What are the topics you don’t feel are easy to communicate with your spouse? Do you worry that even compliments might get taken the wrong way?

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5 responses to “6 Feel-Good Things Your Husband Wants You to Know

  1. 1. Cuddling, when I am with a woman who shows me respect and gives me sex willingly and lovingly, I can’t get enough cuddling with her. So if you want more cuddling I suggest a word to the wise.
    2 Amen, preach it sister. We also like women to be sexually adventurous. Sex is a gift from God and they never teach the sex positive messages form the bible from the pulpit or the sunday school
    3. Did you ever wonder wny Ferriss Bueller’s Day off resonated so well at the box office. Take time and have down time and play hooky from work, call in sick.
    4. Guys do occasionally need guy time but always ask for girl time in return, you deserve it to.
    5. It is amazing what a guy feels about the woman who respects him and gives him enough sex does to make him see you as beautiful.
    6 Again, when you back him up with the kids, you are beautiful in his eyes and teach them to respect their father, you gain huge brownie points from him.

    Blessings on you and yours
    John Wilder

  2. Sexy Christian Wife

    oooh, I really liked the last one!

  3. I hear #2 and #5 a lot. A lot of women don’t initiate or believe they are hot because they don’t FEEL sexy. But our husbands think we are, so we should be confident and act like the sexy wives that we truly are by God’s design.

  4. Thanks for all the positive comments! J I think you hit the nail on the head–even if we don’t feel sexy, we need to start internalizing the positive messages.

  5. Men and women are different, yet do share a lot of basic needs and desires. An open communication can definitely help both express what it really is that they want. Thanks.

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