Why is Marriage Relevant Today?

 I have been reading a lot from single women who do not see the need for marriage in the modern world, where their careers and independence are paramount.

I realize marriage is not for everyone, but perhaps the benefits are still not well known. For me, economic benefits are not the best reason to marry. This snippet from Smart Marriages helps put things into perspective for those who choose marriage:

Way back 50 years ago, everyone got married. It’s what you did.  No questions asked.  Today, not so much.  So you might ask, why do we get married?  What’s the use?  Because, we need a witness to our lives.  There are a billion people on this planet.  What does any one life really mean?  But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything.  The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things.  All of it.  All the time, every day.  You are saying, “Your life will not go unnoticed, because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed, because I will be your witness.”

We often hear people say, “Is there anything more beautiful than a young couple clasping hands, in love on the path of marriage? Can there be anything more beautiful than young love?”  And the answer is, “Yes, there is a more beautiful thing. It is the spectacle of an old man and an old woman finishing their journey together on that path.  Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped; their faces are seamed, but still radiant.  Their hearts are physically bowed and tired, but still strong with love and devotion for one another. Yes, there is a more beautiful thing than young love. That thing is old love.”

If you have chosen marriage, then it’s time to get fully on board and not question what your life would be if you had chosen a different path. Are you waiting to be loved, or are you going to love your spouse today…right now?

The Time is Now
If you are ever going to love me,
Love me now, while I can know
The sweet and tender feelings
Which from true affection flow.
Love me now
While I am living.
Do not wait until I’m gone
And then have it chiseled in marble,
Sweet words on ice-cold stone.
If you have tender thoughts of me,
Please tell me now.

Note: Please follow (“like”) the Facebook page for my upcoming book, First Kiss to Lasting Bliss: Hope & Inspiration for Your Marriage at www.Facebook.com/LastingBliss and learn more about it at www.LoriDLowe.com.

4 responses to “Why is Marriage Relevant Today?

  1. Not a fan of the first snippet of Smart Marriages. What does that mean for single people? That our lives will go unnoticed if we don’t have a witness? Our witness is our community, our families, our friends, our coworkers and more importantly God who knows the heart. You cannot hide from Him. I think the pressure to make your life count as a single person is more difficult as friends I know who are married find contentment in that married journey. For single people, our journey is usually our careers [at least in my circle of Type A high achieving friends]. And if you are a woman in a field where you are the minority, its very very difficult journey and hard to find contentment in the midst of humiliation and sexism [which still exists]. So don’t discount the single people! We are busy too changing the world! I know that is not the message of the entire post but that paragraph felt a little out of place.

    P.S. I love your blog. The only one that I subscribe too and read and I’m single.

    • Thanks, J.C. You make a good point that single people also have many who deeply care about their lives. Every person has an important contribution to our world, whether that is within a single life or a married life. I’m honored that you would be a regular reader as a single woman. Keep changing the world for the better. L

  2. Hi Lori,

    I enjoyed your post and I am so excited about the release of your book. I can’t wait. Sending a hug your way.

  3. Thanks, Lynn. As one of my featured couples, I am grateful for your generous spirit. Best to you and Mike.

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