As a follow up to my last post about making great memories, I’ve been thinking about the dreams and goals that many of us have. We always think we can accomplish these items tomorrow or next year, or some day. A great way to support your spouse is to encourage them to pursue steps toward achieving their dreams.
My husband always wanted to fly on the Concord, and his dream died when the Concord was retired. One of his few regrets is not doing it when he had the chance. Another yearning was to watch a space shuttle liftoff at Kennedy Space Center. It was with great excitement when he stood with my son this morning and watched the shuttle Atlantis take off, on the last mission of NASA’s 30-year program. I’m so glad he seized the chance while he had it.
I’ve seen husbands and wives who encourage and assist their spouses in achieving small and large goals—starting new careers, learning new skills, or taking on new roles. The marriages seem to be bolstered by the support of their deepest callings or desires. (And, not surprisingly, they are often more successful in their endeavors with their spouse’s support.) I’ve also seen the opposite, where a spouse puts down the idea of starting a business or demeans the work or role his or her spouse has chosen, splintering trust at the same time.
Even supporting new hobbies or interests can strengthen the relationship by showing you care about your partner, and you “get” what excites them. Sharing dreams you didn’t get to achieve can bring you closer together.
What career would you choose if you could start over? What trip would you take if you could go anywhere? What is one of your biggest regrets? The goal you have always hoped you’d achieve? These would be interesting topics to discuss on your next date night.
Help your spouse achieve lifelong dreams
Photo credit: NASA/Bill Ingalls