“Keeping the Sparks Alive” Series
- Language matching. In strong relationships, couples often pick up one another’s verbal lingo and match phrases or words. While it can be annoying to some of us, apparently it’s a good thing when you’re so much “on the same page” that you use some of the same common words and phrases.
- Spoil your spouse. Do something unexpected or generous for him or her.
- Be true to yourself, or “let your freak fly.” When you are being your true self, and you feel your spouse loves you despite your flaws, it increases your levels of trust.
- Fight fair, and avoid blaming and name calling.
Some actions to AVOID:
- Don’t smother your partner with support or constantly offer solutions to their problems. Instead, listen and ask questions.
- Don’t storm out or withdraw. Taking a time out is OK, as in, “I need to take a walk and get a break. Can we talk about this in an hour?”
Great article from CBSOnline.com about common marriage myths, including the myths “Never go to bed angry” and “Always be 100% honest with your partner.” Watch the video for some short, but very useful advice.
Dr. Michelle Gannon posted a response to last Friday’s post. She offers Too Tired for Sex: 10 Tips to Help. Read her professional advice on dealing with that all-too-common problem.
Female infidelity is apparently on the rise, especially with women who are financially more independent. This CNN article talks about how female infidelity is different, the reasons for it, and the signs of such trouble.
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