Snow and ice blanked much of the U.S. last week, but I felt protected during an ice storm even when my husband was traveling across the country. He showed acts of love by making sure we had contingency plans in place in case the power went out, which it frequently does where we live. He made sure to review with me how to manually open the garage door, how to start the generator, which essentials to run, and where to plug them in. He even made a last-minute trip the grocery for extra supplies. These actions helped me to stay calm and know that I could care for my children and myself even in the worst scenarios.
Even if you live in a warm and cozy climate, there are ways you can make your spouse feel secure and protected. Many husbands don’t realize how unsafe their wives may feel when traveling alone or even when alone at home. Showing concern for her safety helps demonstrate your love.
Here are a few ideas:
*Buy her a glass-breaking tool for the car that allows you to break the window if the car becomes submerged under water.
*Install solid doors, deadbolts and/or an alarm system in the home.
*Offer to pick her up if she is arriving late at the airport.
*Make sure the car is filled with gas, has the oil changed and is in good working order.
*Check to make sure she reached her destination if she’s traveling a long way.
*Add an emergency supply kit to her car, along with bags of salt or sand.
*Put a GPS in the car if she frequently gets lost.
What wife wouldn’t swoon over a guy who checks her tires and oil before she has to take a trip? It’s the loving gesture as much as it is the act of ensuring her safety.
I think most men are more concerned with feeling safe in being themselves than they are with their physical safety. Some may be reluctant to share their feelings or experiences due to fear of criticism or feeling judged. A happy husband is one who can be honest about his feelings and knows his wife will be supportive and loving. A husband who walks on egg shells when he arrives home or tries to stay clear of the nagging and complaining is not one who will feel safe enough to share what is deep in his heart.
How are you making your mate feel safe today? What other ideas do you have for improving feelings of security—both physical and emotional?
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