Good Housekeeping recently published some “New Rules for a Good Marriage” debunking some popular myths. Some of your biggest marriage fears may be wiped away. Here’s a peek:
Myth: Couples may drift apart as their interests diverge or personalities change.
Truth: In reality, experts say most happy couples share surprisingly little in common. One is an introvert, the other an extrovert. One likes sports, the other knitting. But they find a way to support one another and spend time together. For instance, she knits on the couch while he watches the game. Couples who have more shared interests don’t have a better chance of staying married. The new rule is that a marriage doesn’t run on feelings, but on hard work, compromises and the ability to unite during both good times and crises.
Myth: As you age, sex will become less important.
Truth: Intimacy often improves over time as couples find what makes them both happy. Even after menopause, most women report their sex lives either stay on par or improve. The new rule is that partners’ communication about what they want sexually is linked to happier sex lives.
Myth: When the kids leave home, there will be nothing left to hold the marriage together.
Truth: Marriages that seem empty after the kids leave have been empty for some time; it’s just now noticeable. However, many couples say their marital satisfaction improves after the children leave the nest. The new rule is that spouses gain time, money and freedom, and often have fewer conflicts, after the kids leave. Make a list of what you’d like to do together, and rediscover each other.
Myth: Every man will have a midlife crisis (and do something drastic).
Truth: A period of reevaluation is common for both men and women during middle age as perspectives change. Instead of negative changes, many over 55 are looking forward to “reinventing” themselves for their next life phase. The new rule is that these periods of reevaluation can be good for each spouse as an individual, and good for them as a couple.
Read the full Good Housekeeping article.