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Marriage offers proven benefits to both men and women

wedding ring morguefileAs fewer Americans are choosing to wed, a common discussion is why committed couples should marry rather than simply live together. Outside of religious reasons, people often focus on the benefits of children with married parents. This is valid, as children and adolescents are shown to have myriad advantages.

However, it’s also important to point out that men and women enjoy a long list of proven benefits when they marry instead of merely cohabitating. Even when a couple does not have children, a marriage protects them and strengthens them as individuals and as a family unit.

Married women generally enjoy the following (as compared with unmarried peers):
*More satisfying relationships with their spouse/partner and children
*Greater emotional happiness with less depression
*More financial resources/less likely to end up in poverty
*Decreased risk of domestic violence, sexual assault, or other violent crimes
*Decreased risk of drug and alcohol abuse
*Better physical health
*Longer life

That’s all well and good for women, but why should men commit to marriage? Many benefits have also been proven for married men as compared with their unmarried peers. These include:
*Improved physical health
*Faster recuperation from illness
*Longer life
*Better emotional wellbeing
*Improved relationships with children
*More satisfying sexual relationship with their wives
*Wealthier
*Higher wages and greater employment stability
*Decreased risk of drug and alcohol abuse
*Less likely to commit violent crimes
*Less likely to contract a sexually transmitted disease

If you are considering marriage or have children at that stage, don’t be fooled by cultural trends to avoid marriage because it’s “too risky”. If you think marriage is risky, the above lists should demonstrate that cohabitating or engaging in serial relationships also have risks and downsides.

What scares you the most about marriage? What is the best part of marriage? I would really like to hear your input on these two questions.

Lori Lowe has been married to her husband, Ming, for 19 years. She is the author of First Kiss to Lasting Bliss: Hope & Inspiration for Your Marriage. It tells the inspiring, true stories of couples who used adversity to improve their marriages–from overcoming drug addiction to cancer, infidelity, religious differences, and infertility, among many others. It’s available at Amazon.com and in various e-book formats here.
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Happy Relationships Create a Fountain of Youth

It sounds like the beginning of a bad joke, except without the punch line. What do the Roman Catholic Church, Dr. Sanjay Gupta and prominent universities have in common? Answer: They have all studies and concluded that people in good, supportive relationships live longer and better lives, look younger, and are significantly healthier than those who are single or dating in bad relationships.

Let’s review. We’ve all heard that living longer, better, healthier lives is associated with good marriages. But LOOKING YOUNGER AND BETTER? Really? Now, they have our attention. Put those wrinkle creams away; you may have found a way to hold on to your youth. Read the details in this Huffington Post article.

The catch is that none of these groups have determined a universal reason for the positive side effects of good relationships. However, there are some working theories. One is that couples in strong relationships feel calmer and more relaxed. Their cortisol levels (a stress hormone) are reduced, along with their blood pressure. Reduced blood pressure has lots of health and wellbeing benefits. They add that having similar interests as your partner insulates you from most daily struggles. Couples seek to be happy together, and they have a better quality of life. In addition, intimate friendships with your mate along with great sex within a loving, adventurous, familiar partnership is also known to improve quality of life.

Whatever the reason, if you have a positive, loving marriage with your intimate partner, and enjoy a positive sex life, you may have found the way to look and feel younger. “The happiest and healthiest couples seem to have found an ageless life in their very own version of the Fountain of Youth,” says writer Kristen Houghton.

What do you think? Are the researchers just being mean to single people by saying we married folks have health, happiness—and now youthful looks as well? Or do you think there is something to the positive side effects of having a loving mate by your side?

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Is Marriage Good for your Health?

Lots of people seem to run from the idea of marriage as if it may cause them financial and physical ruin. As I alluded to in previous posts, there are actually many documented benefits of marriage—physical, mental and economic among others. I wouldn’t suggest getting married just to cash in on these benefits, mind you, but engaged and married couples might be happy to know these facts. And those fearful of marriage might find it eases fears.

 

It’s clear that I have a pro-marriage perspective. However, let me say up front that I realize that not all divorces can or should be prevented, especially if any kind of abuse is occurring. My intent is to provide positive information about marriage.

 

In the interest of brevity, I will touch on just a few physical benefits of marriage. I’d be happy to share more details if you are interested. Next time, I’ll share some surprising health benefits that married parents provide to their children.

 

For the adults:

1)    Married people live longer than similar individuals who are single or divorced, even after factoring in income, race and background. (This is true for women, but there’s an even stronger correlation for men.)

2)    Men and women who are married have lower rates of substance abuse and alcohol consumption than unmarried individuals, even after controlling for genetic factors and family background.

3)    Married individuals have a much lower rate of suicide than those who divorce. Men and women who divorce are tragically twice as likely as married individuals to attempt suicide. Married women have lower rates of suicide than divorced, widowed or never-married women.

4)    Married men and women are on average healthier than single, divorced or cohabiting individuals. Researchers don’t know if this is because healthier people get married or because marriage helps them to stay healthier. However, they do know on average married couples live healthier lifestyles, monitor one another’s health and have more wealth, which all probably contribute to better health. A large study of retired individuals showed much less disease and impairment in married individuals than widowed, divorced or cohabiting individuals, after controlling for age, race and sex. A caveat here is that better quality marriages led to better health outcomes! Stress inside or outside a marriage is never good for one’s health.

 

What do you think—is marriage good for your health or is it irrelevant? Why?

 

 

Sources:

Marital Status and Health: United States, 1999-2002.

Why Marriage Matters, Second Edition by Institute for American Values.

“Mortality Differentials by Marital Status: An International Comparison,” Demography 1990.