12 marriage pitfalls wives can fall into

hold hands couple freeditigalphotos.net by photostockThe following dozen “don’ts” for wives relating to their husbands are excerpted from Turn Your Relationship into a Lifelong Love Affair by Bill Syrios. What do you think of this advice for wives? I think #2 is an important reminder that your spouse can’t be your source of happiness, #3 is a must in my opinion, and #10 suggests that even if you feel your marriage is the higher priority, your husband may not feel that way. Which items do you feel are most important for husbands to feel secure in your relationship?

1. Don’t nag, put or whine at him.
2. Don’t be impossible to please or fail to be happy.
3. Don’t embarrass him in public or ridicule him ever.
4. Don’t think he doesn’t love words of praise or your affirmations.
5. Don’t think unkind words won’t wound him.
6. Don’t stop cheering him on.
7. Don’t think he doesn’t need decompression time (such as time with buddies after work).
8. Don’t assume his work aspirations aren’t your business.
9. Don’t think your appearance makes no difference to him.
10. Don’t fall in love with your kids more than him.
11. Don’t think he doesn’t appreciate your touch.
12. Don’t underestimate how important sex is to him.

Do any of these areas need more of your attention? Tomorrow I will share the pitfalls for husbands.

Lori Lowe is the author of First Kiss to Lasting Bliss: Hope & Inspiration for Your Marriage. It tells the inspiring, true stories of couples who used adversity to improve their marriages–from overcoming drug addiction to cancer, infidelity, religious differences, family interference and infertility, among many others. It’s available at Amazon.com and in various e-book formats here.

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11 responses to “12 marriage pitfalls wives can fall into

  1. Great list… now how do I manage to get my wife to see it without upsetting the domestic tranquility?

    • Perhaps you should focus on the husband list (published later today) and share with her how you hope to improve. Then she may be interested in seeing the wife list (which has a link from the husband list). It’s always preferable to focus on being the right spouse rather than changing your spouse. When you spouse notices change, it may spur positive changes on their end as well. Best to you.

  2. Why is it we wives always have lists of things to do for our husband’s on top of what we already have to do. We make the most sacrifices and are forced now (especially in this society) to work in and outside of the home. Now we have to remind them that they are men. We are help mates but who helps us?

    • A list of reminders was provided for both husbands and wives. We should be helpers and encouragers to one another.

    • I hear you and feel you, but for me the Lord helps me keep it all together….Otherwise, l could not do it…..Prayer free me. :)

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  4. Thanks Lori. Makes sense. Looking forward to the husband list…
    You’re right Rain. We men have to step up too and support our wives everyday. I’m working on that…

  5. Glad to hear it. Best to you both.

  6. I have also learned that saying please, thank you, and I’m sorry brings years to a happy marriage. I know when we go out to dinner, I don’t have to say” Thank You”, every time we go even through a drive up window, but I do to show him I appreciate him and what he does for me. Something so small but great rewards.

    • Simple manners go a long way! In addition, I think willingness to be forgiving and kind in daily living. Thanks for the note!

  7. Reblogged this on Exploring Life Through Marriage and commented:
    These points sound right on to me!

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