Comments on: Little Touches Make Big Impact in Relationships

By: 4 Obvious Marriage Tips You Still May Not Be Doing | Marriage Gems

4 Obvious Marriage Tips You Still May Not Be Doing | Marriage Gems — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 00:39:04 +0000

[...] frequently written about the tremendous effects of touch shown in research. (Read Little Touches Make Big Impact.) In my house, we probably touch more than we used to, but it’s still a surprise when one [...]

By: Need a Quick Stress Reducer? Plant a Juicy Kiss on Your Mate. « Marriage Gems

Mon, 14 Jun 2010 14:02:11 +0000

[...] 11, 2010 · 1 Comment We have already learned that touching is a great bond-inducer and stress-reliever. This is true for basketball players as it is for spouses. Research now says a specific kind of [...]

By: Loving Marriage: Communicating Intimacy

Loving Marriage: Communicating Intimacy — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 09:26:53 +0000

[...] touch. There is even a scientific basis for why we need touch. It has been proven that a warm touch seems to set off the release of oxytocin, a hormone that [...]

By: lorilowe

lorilowe — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 17:44:20 +0000

Yes, many men need to be taught to be affectionate and say their upbringing didn’t model that kind of touch. What’s the best way to teach the skill? Ideally, we’d model it for our children, but once a man has grown up in a non-touchy family, how can the behavior be learned? Share your success stories.

By: Kathleen Quiring

Kathleen Quiring — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 17:37:37 +0000

Yes, yes, yes! I can tell that this is true from my own experience. Just having my husband put his hand on my knee when we’re talking makes me feel loved and at peace. My body reacts immediately. My stress level decreases.

That’s super-cool to learn that sports teams who touch more do better. Especially in our homophobic culture, where men are so afraid of looking gay that they’ll avoid touching at all costs. It just goes to show that we lose a lot when we devalue affection, even within the sexes. Men especially need to be taught to touch — to show affection to their wives, children, and even male friends. Very cool.