Comments on: 4 Proven Secrets to Long Marriage Part IV: Cultivate Healthy Passion

By: Sex. :: Late Bloomer Bride

Sex. :: Late Bloomer Bride — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 18:19:00 +0000

[...] lists exist about what creates a long-standing marriage. I like this idea – four simple steps. Guess what number four is? Cultivate a healthy passion. Nice way to put it. Proactive. Succinct. [...]

By: ChristianLoveToys.com

ChristianLoveToys.com — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 08:23:31 +0000

Nice post . I like your definition of a healthy passion: “a voluntary inclination toward an activity or person that we love or value.” … to me, healthy passion is summed up two concepts: intentional action and submissive love. Wonderful and fulfilling marriages (and really relationships in general) require work, getting over yourself, and serving the other person.

By: lorilowe

lorilowe — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 03:15:15 +0000

Thanks for the input, Scott. I think most men would agree with you about passion being key, but I like your eloquence.

By: Scott

Scott — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 01:32:24 +0000

Healthy passion is for me the force behind all the other “secrets” (share joy, stay positive, express gratitude).

Passion is so much more than enjoying physical intimacy, though that’s certainly one component. Passion means living with genuine zeal for your spouse and for your marriage relationship. It’s about being purposeful in finding pleasure and taking delight in one another.

Yes, I’d have to say passion is the key for me!

By: lorilowe

lorilowe — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 02:00:09 +0000

You’re right about “small slights are easier to forgive when we know we’re appreciated.” Feeling appreciated is money in the bank for your spouse. Feeling taken for granted, on the other hand, leaves you on edge and looking for a fight.

By: Newlywed & Unemployed

Newlywed & Unemployed — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 18:36:22 +0000

Above all, I think “express gratitude” resonated most with me. Gary and I try to say thank you for as many things as possible because it makes us feel so good. “Thanks for doing the dishes, honey”, “thanks for making me tea”, thanks for waiting for me.”

My goodness, what a powerful tool. So many small slights are easier to forgive when we know we’re so appreciated.